1#
Q. Dear WAC,
Why is it that when a woman reaches let’s say mid 30's most men want
a 20yr old? It kind of makes a woman feel like she is not worth the effort and most men they do meet only want one thing and
it’s not her mind. (Couldn’t resist asking)
Fine Wine
A. Miss Fine,
Sex has a marketing
campaign only second to the Catholic Church. Please don’t assume that a man wants a woman with brains even at 20, because
that is giving him to much credit. There are exceptions to every rule, but not many to the rule of drool. Men like sex, sexy
women, and age really is not a factor. Most of this can be solved with finding your inner diva. A man’s view of you
should never effect how you see yourself. Embrace your age as an asset! Many men think that you are single at 35 because you
have too much baggage, or that you must be jaded. So you must try to activate your inner child, and rekindle that schoolgirl
flirting you once embraced. A man will assume you are desperate to find a husband, and settle down to have kids. Men believe
that you are dominated by an internal clock aka finding a cock. So turn the tables, by up selling your love of the single
life, and don’t be afraid to garnish your goodies until you find the right guy.
Ryan
2# Q. Dear Ryan,
Is it true that men are only nice to
women if they want to sleep with them? What do you think?
Nice Girl
A. Dear Nice Girl,
I would say that a man could be nice especially if you are sexy and beautiful! Many of us need to address our boundaries, and make sure
they are clear to all. There are different things that motivate a man to be nice to a woman. Yes one of those being a strong
sexual attraction, but it could also be a healthy respect for women in general.
Some guys will think about sleeping with you while holding the door for you, and just not act on it.... I do still
believe a guy can be nice just to be nice. Some guys have adopted a notion from a local radio personality that they should
only open the door for you if you open your legs. That is a sad realization when the dust of being a stud settles, and he
is unhappily divorced at 45.
I encourage you to project an image that commands respect. Then
you can expect a man to be nice to you because it is the correct thing to do. A man should have to respect something in this
world besides his sex drive.
Short and sweet,
Ryan
3# Q. Dear
Ryan,
This is
advice needed for my soon to be ex-sister in law. I love my brother completely and I understand that he no longer loves my
sister in law as he once did. He has decided that he no longer wants to be married to her but still wants to be friends with
her. That's what I don't understand how is this friendship possible? Every time they get together for a friendly event
it tears her apart...she is still hoping that he'll want to be with her. I'm afraid she won't let go...
Miss Trying to help.
A. Miss Helpful,
This is a very
tough road to go down, and normally it’s the other way around. You have two caring adults that have experienced intense
feelings for each other, and neither would wish the other ill will. So if this is how he truly feels about her, he must think
about the big picture. As a woman you realize that you are more inclined to hold on to emotional attachments much longer than
a man. If the situation were reverse she would have been over him way before she broke up. He must set his needs aside when
it comes to being her friend, and if he can’t he really needs to rethink his position on why he left. I didn’t
gather that children where involved, so if that is the case he needs to let her be so she can heal. It’s only fair to
her, and she may never be able to be only a friend. It’s not that she can’t let go, it’s that he can’t
let go. He’s the one that walked away, and he must be able to have the guts to face life without her as a support system.
He wants his cake and to eat it to. This is just not fair, or healthy for either of them. So if he wants to walk the walk,
he has to be able to do it alone.
Hope this helps,
Ryan
4# Q.
Ryan,
Ask you anything huh? Sounds good to me. I met my BF online through a dating
service. We’ve met once, and got involved quickly. We had plans this weekend to meet, but he ran out of money so he
had to cancel.
Now about my
past, I’ve been in two abusive relationships one at 15 and another at 16. I also had a son when I was 15. The relationship
I’m in now is my first one in two years. We’re in love, but the distance sometimes hurts. Sometimes I feel insecure
if we go without talking for more than one night. I know he works at a hospital for mentally ill teens, and his hours are
crazy! I went to counseling after my first abusive relationship, but not after the second one. Do I sound like I’m just
being paranoid? Could it be damage that is left over from my bad relationships? I’m just turned 18, and I’m raising
my 3-year-old son without his father. His father was my first guy I was ever with intimately. I did something stupid, and
didn’t use protection with my current boyfriend either. He has a depleted sperm count. However, I know on my side of
the family getting pregnant is easy. It’s been four weeks. You said ask anything.
Trouble Teen
Dear Teen Queen,
I did say ask anything didn’t I? There are so many things I want to share with you, but it’s
hard to figure out where to start. So lets address the unprotected sex first. I can’t begin to tell you how many fathers
I know with a depleted sperm count, so please for both of you take responsibility only safe sex. Think of your son, and imagine
how hard it would be to raise two children with out a dad. There is a timeless phrase called Murphy’s Law, basically
if it can go wrong it will. Yes you did do something stupid, but you can stop making mistakes. Everything you do now is for
the greater good of your son, no matter what. He must always come first in every aspect.
The online dating thing is not bad, but caution should be used. You are jumping in
way to fast at your age, and being a current single mother. I would suggest that with your history of bad relationships, and
given this new one you need to seek counseling again. You apparently didn’t break the cycle, and until you fix them
you will continue to repeat your mistakes.
I tell you this with conflicted emotions. I am upset that you are in this situation, but angered that
you can’t see your way out.
You have your whole life ahead of you, and you can make your life a happy experience. You just have
to open your eyes to the obvious, and get a good group of supportive friends. I wish I had something witty to say, but I can
feel your confusion. You have to get some help, and you need to listen to people. Whether this relationship works out or not,
you will still be a mom, and still need to take care of yourself. Get some outside input on a local level, and find some good
women to lean on.
You’re in my prayers,
Ryan
