1. Q. Mr. WAC,

I'm just wondering how to get my ex out of my head. I know there is a book about how to get an ex back, but I just want to forget about him. Every time I try not to talk to him, he either calls me or I start thinking about him. I just don't know what to do so I was

wondering if you could help me.

What to do…

A. Dear what to do,

Wow, you can tell the holidays here, because we remember the good times not the bad. So to get that ex out of your head reminisce on why he was bad for you. Did he hurt you? Did he lie to you? Did he neglect you? These bad things he did or how he made you feel

is the inventory list you should think of every time he calls you. It’s like that saying to take one-step forward, only to take two steps back. Where does that get you in life? Obviously the sex must have been magical that is normally why we keep going back, or

thinking about someone from our past. When you are on fire, they say stop, drop, and roll… Well stop contact, drop any ideas about mending the relationship, and roll them out of your life. This is of course unless you don’t want to move forward, and you feel it warrants another go around. Make a list of pros and cons, and then add them up to see which one is greater. If the pros out weigh the cons then maybe you should revisit this old flame, but if the cons are greater remember what to do incase of fire… so you will not get burned…

Good luck and get rolling….

2. Q. Dear Ryan,

I found out recently, while in Cabo, that my boyfriend cheated on me with his Advertising rep. He admitted it, and wants to work things out. Is it possible to forgive if you can't forget?

Cold in Alaska

A. Miss Cold in Alaska,

I am sorry that you only found out about the one situation. I can assure you being a guy myself that this was not the first time, and if it was it is only because that’s the first one who climbed on board. If man can cheat he will not change in that particular situation. So unless you have a fantasy about adding another woman in the mix for a threesome... You will be too conventional to recover in this scenario. A few direct reasons why: 1. You will not trust him easily 2. He will grow frustrated and tired of having to prove himself to you 3. You will never be as intimate once trust is broken. So this is where the rubber meets road... save yourself and him a lot of back and forth fights. Yes it is the nature of man to shop around, and the way you keep him from doing so is to not give in to what I call the family process. Stay aloof to a degree by not asking his where a bouts, or pushing him to do things... its called building passion and keeping it... relationships are like job... so unless the man is fearful of being fired after he gets his raise. He will not work as hard, nor

have longevity at that company. I hope this helps....

You may have some cold nights ahead, but it will not be as cold as his touch.

Sending you warm wishes,

Ryan

3.Q. Help Please,

My question or concern is this, why it is when you're single and interested in settling down, guys come from every direction to tell you how beautiful you are? How they’d love to take you out, get to know you, and be the man you choose! In fact, all they really want is

to have sex. They never have an interest in starting something other than a physical relationship, but they'll tell you what they think you want to hear to get what they want. We're being honest and telling them, this is what I want, and in turn they lie to get

what they want. So the out come is either they get what they wanted from you only to leave, or they get frustrated by not getting what they want and leave. So basically, we get the crap end of the stick about 90% of the time. What can a woman do? Am I good enough? Should I think of something else?

Miss “Single mother in crisis”

A. Miss Crisis,

Honestly a man thinks about sex every 15 secs that’s a huge part of his day. You’re complaining that men want you for sex then they get it only to leave, or they don’t and leave anyway. Basically, you’re saying you’re gorgeous, and men only see your exterior first, well it could be worse. I also guess you don’t think Brad Pitt is sexy at all, and you often wonder about his hobbies… Come on let’s be serious…To find a way to make your beauty an asset, try making a list about what makes you special, and what you’re looking for in a man.

You are also a mom, many men want their own kids not someone else’s... Let that be part of the conversation on a first date so you can begin the weeding process. You can also use your beauty against him.... Talk about sex, be open it, and observe his reactions.

Don't project needing to be saved, or being a prude.... Basically you are trying to walk the line... Level the field, so that you both can see eye to eye. A man doesn't want a confident woman if he is trying to hit, and run.... You can even mention this! Meaning be upfront with your questions, and even pose it to him for an answer. See how he pulls back, and all the

while you are indirectly building passion in the animal complex of a his brain... That’s what this is all about... Moreover, find a man who has been through similar dating experiences, and identify your experiences with his so that he begins to respect you as a person...Also, don't let the fears of previous hurts rule you, you must make sex an action not the asset... If you have sex with a man, don't call him right away, let him wonder what you’re thinking ... Then he will pursue to find out why... Men are curious by nature... So it’s only natural to play a little hard to get if you want to get him. Remember, we live in a society where sex sells, but it is not free so set your price, and don’t marking it down to beat the

competition.

Worth every penny,